I have a lot to say tonight. This is a subject that is very touchy to me. It is about toxic people or saboteurs. Everyone has a toxic person in their life, and it can make you miserable.....if you let it. Luckily, since I have been on my journey this past month, no one has tried to sabotage me. Everyone has been VERY supportive. But in the past, especially when I was a young girl, there seemed to be more people who did not like me making good changes to my life. I am older and more fiesty now, and very strong willed. And I keep the toxic people at bay.
Saboteurs do not scare me. They can try and try all they want to, but I know I am capable of saying "no thanks" and be ok with it. It is a powerful thing to say "no" and be in control of what goes into your mouth. For those of you eating clean right along with me, remember that! And it is ok to say no! If someone makes you feel bad for it, it is only because they are unhappy with themselves. Someone may even bring over a plate of cookies or some type of goodies to throw you off. When that has happened to me in the past, I just say "thank you" and give the treats to someone else.
But these days, my main interference is toxic people. Toxic people will come in various forms and shapes. They can be very draining and can basically live by feeding off your good virtue(s). Moreover, you could be left feeling battered or emotionally drained of your all your energy.
Toxic people will rob you of your life if you allow them and you may end up mirroring their image, as well as behaving just like them.
Toxic people may:
*Complain consistently
*Gossip uncontrollably about you
*Will put you down
*Project a lot of anger
*Extremely sensitive
*Mostly defensive
*Very controlling
*Very Jealous
*Very manipulative
*Joy and dream killers
*Insecure
*Very Disrespectful
Do you know someone who always makes you feel depressed, angry or just plain tired? Think about this person. Is he or she a complainer, or someone who always expects things to go wrong, or someone who constantly finds fault with you? Does he or she always seem more cheerful after ranting to you? If any one or more of these is the case, you likely have a toxic person on your hands.
If you have an easy way to get this person entirely out of your life, you'll be better off instantly. Of course, often it is not so easy, when the toxic person is a co-worker, family member or even a long-time friend. Especially family. The best way to deal with a toxic family member is to learn to tune them out, because inevitably, you will have to be around them.
I brought up this subject today because while I am on this journey, I try to keep things as positive as I can. Yes, I know there will be some days that are not so good, and that is life. But I have learned to keep toxic people at an arms length. I don't like feeling depressed or down. Sometimes, having to deal with toxic people can trigger food addictions because of the stress. I do not do good with stress. It brings on anxiety and makes my body hurt. Try to keep the people around that love you for who you are and support you in all that you do. Just remember that people who are always negative, mean, or who are talking smack about you, are unhappy people.
I had a situation not long ago with a very toxic person. For 6 months I felt like I was on a roller coaster ride with this individual. The hard part was that I am such a nice girl, and I tried to help this person, because that is just the way I am. Nothing was ever right, and I came to terms that it was not me doing anything wrong. This human being is no longer living anywhere close to me and is not a part of my life. Thank goodness! Having he/she around was making me crazy and very cranky. I care about this person, but I am done. I wish them the best. But now, it is time to take care of me. No more trying to help those that do not help themselves.
Anyway, my advice to you is to take care of yourselves. Don't let anyone bring you down! And believe me, there will always be someone trying to tear you down to build themselves up. I still have a few in my life that try, but they can't touch me. I will succeed. And I hope the rest of you will, too! That is all :)
PS....I nailed the Samba tonight when I taught Zumba at the church. Weepah! It felt so good. I practiced that dance all day long. I told you I would get it. Practice makes perfect! (Practice makes perfect with ANYTHING in life!)
Here is what I ate today:
Breakfast-
Creamy Buckwheat cereal with almond milk and blueberries
1 c. green tea
32 oz water
Mid-morning snack-
1 c. pea pods
16 oz water
Lunch-
3 oz salmon
1 c. steamed broccoli
16 oz water
Mid-afternoon snack-
1 c. strawberries
16 oz water
Dinner-
Tossed salad with crab, shrimp, green bell peppers, carrots, tomatoes, jicama, black beans, and low-cal Italian dressing
16 oz water
After-dinner snack-
Smoothie with almond milk, 1/2 c. frozen raspberries, 1 apple and handful of spinach
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